What I’ve Learned Being 30 and A Part-Time Human
A friend jokingly stated a few years ago that I must be part-time human because I'm always doing something, I rarely go to bed before midnight, and I probably nap like 4x per month (not sure if that's literal or metaphorical). Anyway, I laughed it off. It wasn't until a couple months ago that I asked myself "How the hell AM I doing all this?! How haven't I lost my mind yet?! How am I keeping it together?" As you can imagine, my response to this was much more in depth than I'll share with you now, but what I will let you in on are my top favorite tips for the female part-time human (brought to you by the conversations I have with myself).
Read on sistas, read on...
Take care of your body
I didn’t always do this, but it is soooo important to be conscious about what we eat and drink. Up until a few months ago, I had the shittiest diet and I began to see it in my skin and feel it in my sleeping patterns and energy. No bueno. I need to be healthy for myself and for the ones who love me so I can live long, feel my best, and so I can dance through a healthy (and snatched!) body.
Create/Have a life outside of work
This is my favorite. Go out during the week. Get a hobby. Join a team activity. We need outlets! Have something other than your job to look forward to. I can’t stress this enough. I’m one of the “I can sleep when I’m dead” believers. My job does not dictate my social life. Be the literal definition of work hard/play hard! The fulfillment this brings manifests in all areas of your life.
Organize your life the manual way
Dry erase calendars/boards and planners give me the most life! I’m very visual, so it’s different when you WRITE things down and see your life organized visually. Everything that I need to do personally and professionally is on my dry erase calendar in a space I see everyday. My planner is the homie. If it isn’t in the planner, I won’t be there.
Anyone who knows me knows I am the alarm queen! I set (real-time/daily) alarms for EVERYTHING. To wake up, to make a call, that rehearsal that's in 2 hours, to ask someone something, to pay a bill, nail appointments, and so on. I even set alarms to remind me to set an alarm the next day. Lol. It works!
Note: I’m referring to the actual alarm feature on the iPhone, not the calendar ☺
Take the damn risk!
I heard this quote years ago in a movie and it has been my genuine, personal philosophy ever since. “I don’t need easy, I just need possible.” Don’t wait for the ‘win-win’ or for it to be easier. As long as you have a POSSIBILITY, that is literally all you need. I let fear be my teacher, not my barrier. Applying this to my life has been so rewarding in my career, my relationships, and my actions.
Stop apologizing for who you are
I’m a full-time Program Director, a kick-ass girlfriend, a dog mommy with a booming social life, I train in Colombian salsa 3x a week, I go social dancing (salsa) at least once a week, and I sleep 5 hours a night on average. I have mild anxiety, a small case of OCD, a pizza addiction, I online shop way more than I should, and I went out 5 nights out of 7 this week and I feel great. I don’t know how I do it, but I’m happy and THAT is what matters.
Put your joy at the top
The things and people that make you happy/bring you joy/make you come alive should be a PRIORITY, not an extracurricular. This is where most of my energy should live.
Stop with the timelines
I hear folks saying things like “I’m 34—I should be married by now, I should have a kid, I should be making this amount of money” and they feel defeated because they don’t. I don’t have any age-specific timelines. Sure I have goals, but I’m 30, I’m not married, and I don’t have kids—yet. Guess what, that is OK. These things will happen when it’s my time. Let’s stay in our lanes, stop comparing, and realize that this is the only life we have—focus on making it a dope one (even if you are human only half the time).
Cheers to 31 in July!