Overcoming the Fear of Getting Started and Finishing Strong
Have you ever had a brilliant idea and then all of a sudden fear overcomes you and you feel stuck? All of us have a point when we feel paralyzed by fear. For some of us, that moment comes when we are just about to hit 'send' on a finished product. We leave that proposal in our drafts for a few days, next thing you know, the deadline is upon us, or worse, we were so busy obsessing over perfection that we missed the deadline and the opportunity of a lifetime. For me, getting started is the scariest part of any idea. Despite restless nights dreaming of my “big idea;” the bravery needed to put pen to paper and create, can be too much to bare. If you find yourself having these same feelings, then this post is for you.
When I first had the idea to start Glass Ladder Group in 2015, I spent the first month drowning in anxiety. I didn’t sleep, I could barely eat and I felt like I was keeping a huge secret. Two years later, I am preparing for a major expansion project and those familiar feelings have begun to creep back in. Gratefully, I have been here before and have a few tips to share with both you and myself so that we can overcome our fears and stop stalling.
Just Keep Moving
One of the greatest pieces of advice I received when I was having the great breakdown of 2015 was to “keep moving.” Like they say, “Idle hands are the devil's workshop.” Fear and anxiety feed off of inactivity, quickly creating an obsessive focus on what you can’t do instead of what you can do. Even if it’s doing something small, like choosing images for your website or creating social media handles, by doing something, you make your big idea that less improbable.
It Is Just Like the First Time
Believe it or not, this is not the first time you’ve felt this way. Every time we are faced with the next big thing for us, we experience this same fear and anxiety. Reading my journal entries from other times when I made a big step helped to calm my nerves and put things in perspective. Knowing that I was a nervous wreck and having it all work better than I could have ever imagined is a hell of a motivator. If you haven’t been doing it already, start making a record of how you feel when it’s time to level up. This will be valuable when you get ready to make your next #BAUS move.
Get a Proxy
You know that friend who never has a problem getting started or hitting send? She is amazing, right?! You need her. Make her your official accountability partner and whenever you get stuck, send her a text message or give her a call. She is going to be the person who sends you a lifeboat when you wade too deep into the sea of doubt. Keep her updated on your deadlines and give her the authority to hit send if you have to. It’s for your own good.
Now go get started and finish strong. I look forward to seeing all make #BAUS moves
Sabrina K. Garba